empathy / sympathy
Feeling with someone versus feeling for someone.
Empathy is the capacity to take another person’s feeling as if it were yours. Sympathy is fellow-feeling, or pity. You have sympathy for a stranger’s loss. You have empathy when you can inhabit that loss. Do not use empathy for every kind word.
Examples
Usesympathy for the family
Useempathy born of the same loss
Avoidempathy for every late train